It is difficult to know how to approach your child about eating disorders if they are in college. You are limited to what she chooses to tell you it can be scary. There are some questions you can ask that will give you better results.

Here are some options to think about as you consider approaching your son or daughter.

• Is there a way we can talk about this so it’s easier for you? Are there certain words that I used to really bother you? If so, what words could I use instead?

• Can I check with you about this once a week so every conversation we do not focus on eating issues? When would be the best time for us to talk about it? I love you and it is not possible to not talk about it. I want to approach you in a way that feels most comfortable for you.

• What help are you willing to get? Will you meet with a counselor, nutritionist, doctor, counselor in schools or groups meeting in college? Let’s start with one … which one would you feel comfortable to try first? It is not possible to not get help. I love you and will not let you continue to hurt you. If you are not ready to get help where you are, you have to know that I will make arrangements to get you home so I can ensure that you are taken care of.

• Will you sign release so I can speak to those who care for you? I need to know you’re taking care of yourself by doing what they ask you to do. Again … if you are not ready for me to have the information that I will make arrangements to get you home so I can see me daily how you are doing

* Warning :. Don ‘t tell her that you will come to her home unless you are willing to follow through. She needs to know that you are serious and / or illness or self-harm her behavior is serious.